Funnily enough, it’s children I’m talking about!
I’m the luckiest mummy in the whole wide world ever and I regularly tell my son. My luck is based on so many different things – and it would be hard to articulate all of them here and now. This weekend, however, served to illustrate perfectly how children can add a completely different dimension to our lives – or it certainly has to me.
William is 9 and one word every teacher has used to describe him has been “enthusiastic”. He simply wants to grasp life by the scruff of its neck and do something with it. Clearly he doesn’t realise this is anything different to anyone else – it comes so naturally. And that in itself is something we should feel lucky about when surrounded by children.
It can be hard, don’t get me wrong, keeping up with him. It’s really hard sometimes to not be the mum who says “that’s too hard”, or “not sure how we would go about doing that”. I’ve never been a negative person myself so saying things like this really irk me, but still I have to check myself and think differently. Is it really too hard? No, often it just isn’t something I know about, or have done previously, or even worse – fits into our plans!
A few months ago I told William about a colleague who had raised money for a charity involving an 8 year old boy who had a very rare disease. What I told him obviously struck a chord and he decided there and then he was going to raise money to help Oliver. Within weeks he had raised over £250 by running in a local family run. That was quite easy to arrange and something very familiar to me so I was comfortable with that request and obviously incredibly proud he had managed to do this. As soon as he finished he started to develop ideas for the next bout of fundraising and over the next couple of months he um’d and arr’d until he decided on setting up a sweet stall in the local farmers market all in aid of the charity.
At this stage, I started with the “that’s too hard” and “not sure how we do that” thoughts which were followed by “let’s think about something else we can do”…… Clearly this flies in the face of all personal development training I have delivered in the last 20 years and something I was very ashamed of. But the thoughts were still there, even if I knew better!
Undeterred he carried on with the plans and on Sunday we held our first charity sweet stall at our local market!
The last few weeks (“surely we’ll need more time to do this…”) have been simply wonderful. William has shown me again how we can do whatever we want to do. He has shown me that there is a solution to every problem. He has shown me that if you want it you can do it. I am incredibly proud of him.
So far he has raised in excess of £400 from the sweet stall. We had the most amazing day. The friends who helped him visibly grew in confidence as they gradually moved from behind the safety of the stall to talking to customers about what they were doing and why. They were developing skills they don’t even know about . And I learnt so much about myself too. I learnt not to say “that’s too hard” and to just get on and do it.
I’m the luckiest mummy in the whole wide world ever!
Thank you William.